I was thinking about moving back to Hanoi because for 5 months staying in Thu Duc city, I’m not being able to find a suitable home: with good amenities (tennis courts, gym, coffee shops, shopping centers) and most importantly: closer to friends and other relationships. I tried a dating app, but most girls I found online are in the city centre (Tan Binh, Binh Thanh, D10, Phu Nhuan districts, etc.) Therefore, I don’t think that if I’m able to rent a nice apartment in D9, I’m still going to be isolated. And if I decide to move closer to city center like living in one of those district, or maybe rent in D2 which is just the center between city center and my company in D9, I still probably prefer to work from home due to travel distance, traffic jam or harsh weather (extremely hot sunny weather), I cannot bare that nor I think it’s comfortable and a good sacrifice, of course going to company at work at the office definitely make me more productive, but if I have to travel more than 40 minutes everyday (total time for roundtrip) then I think it’s counter productive (it’s more effective to stay at home and work remotely).
One more thing I want to mention: do I feel happy staying in Thu Duc? as I mentioned in the beginning: this Long Truong ward is where the only ammenities I have access to is the market, but the market is not really the only thing I need to fullfill my everyday fullfillment: I need a larger kitchen with ventilation and larger cabinets so I can put in my kitchen equipments, so I can cook my own healthy meal to keep my body weight in check, moreover, there is no gym nearby, the closest one is 3 kilometers away and the facility quality is quite low. And again, it’s not easy to make friends or meet people from here, most people living in the Saigon centre, which is around 15 kilometers away from my location. Moreover, I don’t have a bike.
If I lived in Hanoi, life could change significantly. I have all the amenities and I can live happily. I used to live happily, and the only reason I’m not happy now then that I’m not able to find the right person to become my partner. But I think it can be fixed, I just need to change my mindset, and I already did: it’s the truth that if I’m perfecting myself to become happy, fulfilled, and healthy, then the right individual will eventually come and become my lifetime partner. I don’t need to rely on anyone else to make me happy; I can be happy on my own. Now, I repeat again and again, it’s all about gym, cooking & healthy diet are everything I need and care about when speaking about living location, I need to take care of my health so I can have a good body to focus on my career goals.
The last thing I want to talk about in this article is death. I see people are dying everyday, it’s not something new, eventually I will face death, but the point is, as stoicism point out, we have to live the very this moment the fullest, don’t waste time looking too far from now or looking backward too much for nothing (if you’re looking back for lessons review that’s good), but if you looking backward for nostalgia and stuck in the past then that’s not good. I believe it’s important to focus on what matters now so you can really “live” the moment. Death is something unavoidable, and it happens to everyone. Of course, I’m not telling that we should be stoned heart, but rather appreciate the very moment. To be frank, if life isn’t perfect, we can choose to end life anytime. But since we are still healthy and being able to be productive and build things, then keep going, contribute to this world to make your life meaningful.
Final words: I don’t care about pride, about praise or recognition from people, I do care about accumulation of wealth: both financially and knowledge, that mean I want to help people to make everybody life better as a whole. Providing values to each other is what really make us hapy.